Lately I've been thinking a lot about my role as a mom. As I think about what kind of mom I thought I'd be, what kind of mom I want to be and what kind of mom I actually am, I feel like I'm failing. The three are just not meshing and I am feeling a real need to buckle down and do a better job. So my goal for the month of October is to make some changes in that area of my life. (you have to know by now that I have to have goals, right?!)
They say it takes 21 days to form a new habit so I figure if I take the whole month to make a few changes they ought to be second nature by the start of the new year. Since I don't want to set myself up to fail nor do I want to feel overwhelmed, I am only going to make a few changes right now. Once I have those changes mastered I'll move onto other areas~ because holy cow, there are definitely a lot areas to cover!
So, to start myself on this exciting new journey (it's exciting to me anyway!) I have decided to actually make my kids breakfast in the morning. For some reason I have always thought I needed to be ready by 8:30 right along with all three of them.....talk about chaotic mornings and undue pressure! Sadly, in all that choas, a quality breakfast time has been all but forgotten. Don't get me wrong, the kids eat and they eat decently. But I'd like them to actually enjoy what they're eating. And trust me; they don't enjoy cereal. So I have decided to make breakfast a priority in our house by actually making my kids breakfast instead of just cereal. Won't they be surprised!
Another change I hope to make will be to just spend more time talking with them instead of continually parenting them. They know the basics. They know the rules. They know what's expected of them behavior wise in school, in public and at home. It's up to them to follow those rules and expectations. My continual nagging isn't doing any of us any good. So, I am making a promise to myself and the kids to spend more time just talking and less time mothering. Overall, they are great great kids with fabulous personalities and fun interests and I feel like I am missing out on truly getting to know them because I'm so worried about being their mom.
My last change for the month is to relax. (Oh shoot! Did you just spit your coffee clear across the room at that one?! Sorry. I'll help you clean it up.) Yes, this will be a tougher one for me to conquer because, well, you know me, relaxed I am not! But if I can commit and stick to baking once a week, I can learn to relax a little too. The hard part about this goal will be zeroing in on areas where I need to relax. (be quiet Marty!) But I figure if I can purpose to be more relaxed in general, then it will all fall into place eventually. Our schedule isn't set in stone. So what if we eat dessert before dinner? And who cares if Meghan is up till 9:45 instead of 9:30........life will go on and we'll all probably be a little happier in the process.
So, wish me luck on my journey.......I know there will be days I fall off the wagon, but I have the best of intentions. But what I need to tell myself is that every improvement, every change, no matter how small it may seem, is better than no improvement at all.